I had a smashing headache all day yesterday- too much/ too little caffeine, I’m not sure. I’d watched the Oscars the night before and so maybe it was that- too much Hollywood. I kept thinking about Kim Novak and my mom yesterday.
My mom loved the glamour of Kim Novak. I had no idea who she was when I was a kid, but Mom thought she was someone grand. My mom also saw Marilyn Monroe and Judy Garland as divine. She talked with some sadness about Garland’s struggle with drugs that led to her death. She talked about Marilyn’s gorgeous curves as she reflected on how women’s body ideals had changed. This was when I was a teen and struggling with my own body image.
“It’s not one chocolate sundae that’s a problem, it’s a week of chocolate sundaes that’s a problem,” she would say when I admitted worry about my weight but really wanted that treat, the word treat itself charged with electricity. My mother had her own images she felt she should live up to as she reflected on size and aging. She had good insights but had a hard time showing the kindness of those insights to herself. That applies to many of us.
I read a brilliant blog yesterday from Self-Styled Siren about why everyone criticizing Kim Novak’s plastic surgery should look a little deeper at the many reasons why she is where she is. Thankfully, many people are reading it, as it’s getting lots of commendation. As ever, the societal and personal discussions about the pressure for perfection aren’t even close to over.
No good Monday morning on offer, sadly. If you planned to start the week with fresh energy and outlook, it will be dampened by confirmation that Ugandan President Museveni has signed a controversial anti-gay law. Those convicted under this law could be sentenced to life in prison. Life. I hate to consider what […]
A segment on The Current caught my attention this morning. It featured a discussion about a new ad campaign to heighten awareness about pancreatic cancer. In the ad, people with pancreatic cancer make statements about cancers they’d rather have, given the survival rate for pancreatic cancer is so dismal. Katherine O’Brien, who lives with metastatic […]
I’m very glad to hear that Saleema Noon and associates are offering a new program for boys. My son is ten, and iGuy could be totally great for him. It promises to help boys learn about puberty, body image, ideas about masculinity, social media, and expressing emotions. That last one in particular I’m thrilled to […]
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